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Stay True To Who You Are

I saw this today, and I have so many thoughts on this statement. đź’ś
 
Let me start off with, everything I have gone through, experienced, been a witness too, learned about people, I have learned one of the most important things!! STAY TRUE TO WHO YOU ARE!!!
 
People want power.
People want to be powerful; they want to get ahead, they want what you have at times, but also, people do not want to always put the work in to get it. Sometimes people do not want to talk to someone to actually find out what is going on in your life. They don’t want to see how your situations really are.
They instantly want to jump into action and think they are saving everyone by just taking over, getting an opinion of what they “think” is going on, and take you out because they only want what you have or had.
 
Now this isn’t for everyone, but it for sure is for the ones that read it and say, “oh shoot”, is she talking to me???
 
Maybe I am, maybe I am putting this out there to have you rethink things. Maybe this is out there to STOP trying to hurt people to get what YOU WANT!!
 
Why can’t you work hard for what you want?
 
Why can you not be your unique self to get what you want?
 
Why can’t you be happy for the person that has what you want, and think, goodness, if they can do it, so can I?
 
Why can’t you set yourself apart from others and offer something a little different that makes people want to come to you?
 
Why don’t you maybe count your blessings for what you have, be grateful for those that helped get you there, and not take down the ones you don’t think are doing things how YOU want them to be?
 
Why don’t you pick the phone up and have a conversation to understand things better?
 
Why don’t you get back to the old fashion way and talk to others, listen to others, and cheer others on, even when it’s not how you would do it?
 
These are just some things to think about!
 
What we need more of in this world is, unique hard working caring people.
There is enough hatred and shaming going on. You don’t need to add to it. Be your best self, and if you have to hurt others to be your best self, you need some hard soul searching to happen. You might need to look in the mirror and ask yourself, is this who I want to be?
 
Let’s build one another up. Let’s cheer each other on.
We all have our journey. We all have a purpose. That purpose should not be to DESTROY OTHERS to get what you want!!
 
If you need a cheerleader, reach out to me,
I am more than happy to cheer you on to achieve your dreams and goals.
 
I want you to be happy. I want you to reach your highest potential, but I don’t want you to hurt others to get there.
 
Let’s live our best life TODAY, because we are not promised tomorrow, and if tomorrow does not come, will you be proud of your journey and who you are?
XoXo Dee
Changing Your Mindset: Attitude is Everything

Changing Your Mindset: Attitude is Everything

Keeping a positive outlook can be a struggle during times of uncertainty and understandably so. It’s easy to feel surrounded by doom and gloom when you’re virtually sequestered.  It’s important to take your mental health seriously, and mindset seems to be the key. There are two camps out there when it comes to mindset during challenging times. Some people are able to focus on the positives, while others seem to be more challenged to keep a productive, positive mentality.

 

Attitude can really be everything when it comes to a healthy mindset. 

We might be feeling isolated. But what about thinking of it as an opportunity to spend much-needed quality time with your immediate family. Maybe you find yourself still working from home with the kids. You could give in to the worry and let it stress you out. Or you can use this time spent with your children and bring the family closer. Try making it a fun experience! Not all learning is done in the classroom or behind a computer screen. How about taking the kids outside or yourself for a nature walk to collect leaves or make snow angels if you have snow.  Are you someone that likes to go outside and look up and the clouds to see what different things you can find in the clouds? Getting fresh air outside is so needed as well. 

 

Another way to keep positive is to try and unplug.

It’s necessary to take a conscious step back from the tv. I try to not let myself be inundated with negative things. Remember, there are still good things happening in the world. Maybe search for some funny videos to watch. Tik Tok, Reels on Insta gram, oh my goodness people are creative. You can Facetime with friends and family. Do something to make yourself smile and laugh.  Have you ever had that one laugh that you can’t breathe? You end up crying from the laughter and it takes a minute to compose yourself. If you haven’t, I challenge you to find that one thing that brings that kind of laughter to you. Oh, my goodness it is so good for our souls.

 

Sometimes something as small as what you’re wearing can make all the difference in how you feel.

Even if you’re working from home now, getting up and getting dressed as if you were headed to the office, may give that needed mood boost and positive motivation. Achieving a positive outlook can be as simple as daily positive affirmations. Saying daily affirmations can help shift your mind. Starting in the morning with them and ending your day as well with saying them.  Find what works best for you.

 

Giving yourself a mood-makeover

is something we can all do to help ourselves stay focused on the positives during this time of uncertainty. Remember, no one is perfect. So, if you feel yourself starting to slip into negative thinking patterns, try making a conscious effort to rearrange your mindset. Or head over to Powerful-Kind-Women for some love and inspiration. A positive attitude can go a long way! Having gratitude helps our attitude.

 

XoXo, Dee

Finding Your Purpose

Finding Your Purpose

Finding Your Purpose: Questions to Ask Yourself

Do you know how to find your purpose? If you posed that question to several people, the majority would likely answer no. It’s because there is a world of possibilities. People are afraid to try something new out of fear of the unknown. They often don’t know how to go about looking for what they should be doing.

You need first to ask if what you are doing now is satisfying. Put aside the bills and your paycheck for a moment. Do you get a charge out of getting up every morning to go to work? How do you feel on Sunday evenings, assuming you start up work on Mondays? Do you dread having to get up in the morning on Monday, or does it excite you?

Another problem is you may feel stuck

doing something in which you don’t believe. Suppose you work for a company that isn’t doing right by the community. It may be legal, but you don’t feel it’s ethical. It pays well, and that is why you stick with it. You even like many of the people who work there. However, the company sells something that makes your stomach turn. An example of this could be working for a tobacco company. You need to ask yourself if you can continue to work in an environment that doesn’t fit well with you.

You will also need to ask yourself what will it take to make changes to get out of your current situation and into something you enjoy. It may require going back to school or at least, training online. Luckily, there are several options available, and many of them are cheap or free.

If you find that the path is well laid out, ask yourself are you’re willing to put in the time and make an effort? If not, you haven’t truly found your purpose. You either need to continue what you are doing or find another path. Keep doing this until you are willing to put forth the effort.

You should explore your current situation and determine if you can change up your routine on the road to finding your purpose. For instance, ask your company if there are other opportunities within the organization that you can explore. If there are, they may ask you to serve two roles (your old position and your new one) while transitioning. Working like this could require putting in overtime, etc. But, it gives you some options to explore your purpose

 

XoXO Dee

 

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What I learned walking into a gymnastics facility

What I learned walking into a gymnastics facility.

If you have had the chance to walk into a gymnastics facility and be there for a bit, you might have heard things like,

“You got this” “You can do it” “Let’s Go” “Get back up” “Brush it off” “Go get it” “We are cheering you on”

These words are shouted by coaches, other gymnasts, parents, and owners. These encouraging words are words to get the gymnast to keep going and not quit.  Can you imagine what it would look like if more people encouraged others to keep going and not quit!

I remember the first day I walked into the gym with my 6-year-old daughter.

We were so worried that she would get hurt doing all the tumbling she kept doing outside, that we wanted her to get trained properly.  I remember walking in the building and kind of wanting to cough to clear my throat from the chalk that was in the air. It smelled like athletes working hard. The noise was loud with what I explained above being chanted.  I looked around at all the different pieces of equipment and different levels of the gymnast. My daughter was a little reserved as she was observing others.

I still remember thinking, “Oh goodness, wait until they watch Nickale and her talent”.  I knew she had something about her that was unique. I was the mom that couldn’t wait until she was at the next level, and then the next level after that.  I didn’t realize I just needed to enjoy the moment because before I knew it, it would all be over.

As time went on, the hours and dedication increased. Things got intense. The practice took hours and hours. Skills were being learned. Injuries would happen here and there. Driving exactly 25 minutes each way if no traffic with 4 kids became our life. I didn’t even think twice about having 2 babies and a 5-year-old at the gym each day for 4 hours at a time. It was our routine and we made do. We made incredible friendships. Lasting memories. I knew Nickale wanted to go to the Olympics, and I would do everything I could to make it happen. Isn’t that what we do as parents?

What I learned walking into a gymnastics facility? So many lessons that I didn’t know I would learn at the time. Let me list a few…

  • Hard work either pays off or really does a number on you.
  • Gymnastic takes a toll on your body
  • Coaches are very stern at a high level of competition
  • Coaches will push you harder than you may think you want to be pushed
  • Coaches are doing what they generally feel is best for the athlete if they are a good coach
  • Not everyone is going to make the Olympics and that you are still amazing and talented
  • More people need to cheer each other on and encourage you not to quit
  • Listen to your kids when they say something is wrong
  • Listen to your kids when they have so much pain that it hurts to do the smallest thing
  • Don’t live your life through your kids
  • Don’t critique your kids. That is a coach’s role. Your role is to love them and encourage them NO MATTER WHAT

I never thought Nickale would have a daughter that would do gymnastics

I don’t know why I couldn’t picture it, but I couldn’t.  Now it’s her reality, she is the mom that is watching her daughter do gymnastics, have days that it is hard, Days that do not go as planned. Days that she wants to quit, and days that she loves it. Nickale coaches as well at the same gym because she really is amazing at what she does.

Now she will experience the feelings and emotions of wanting the best for her daughter. Feeling the sadness when that first rip happens on her hand. When that fall off the beam is a little scarier than the last fall. All of the emotions of being the mom taking her daughter to the gym.

Nickale is the one now cheering others on, telling them they can do it. Asking them questions to make sure they are ok.  Did she learn these skills because she was a gymnast and knows how it feels? Or did she learn these skills because others taught her how to go the extra mile for others? Or did she learn these skills because she learned that no one is our competition? We are all unique in our own way and cheering others on is how we become better people.  It is really interesting that when we go through situations, we can throw a fit and be negative with it or turn it into a positive situation and make the best out of it.

I am looking forward to continuing to watch all the things Nickale has learned, and to help so many other people. That is what life should be about. Take what we have learned and help others. Listen a little more. Care for others a little more. Enjoy the moments a little more. Don’t wish for the next level to happen, enjoy the level you are on and have the next level as your goal.

I can brag for a minute…

There is nothing like having your daughter get her cast off from a broken wrist on Tuesday, get cleared to tumble on Thursday, and walk into a state meet on a Friday and WIN IT!!!!  Things might have been a little harder at times for Nickale, but she didn’t quit!  She pushed through the good, the bad, and the hard.  The skills she learned are being used today.

Now she gets to enjoy these moments and smiles. Cheering others on.

This is your reminder from Powerful Kind Women to continue cheering others on. Through the good, the bad, and the hard!!!

 

XOXO, Dee

 

BE HAPPY BLOG POST

Be Happy

Do you hear that often?

Just be happy.  Oh, how come you are not happy? Wait, you are not happy? What’s wrong with you? I don’t understand why you are not happy.

This might be something you hear often, or it could be that you don’t hear it at all.  It seems to be something as well that everyone just thinks everyone should be happy. We might even put this fake smile on so people don’t keep asking if we are happy.

It becomes at times too much to handle and we just want to hide. What do we do, we stay inside, we don’t get out in the sun, we don’t talk to others as much, we silently suffer because we are so afraid of disappointing someone or letting someone down that we just are not happy.

It is estimated that 16.2 million adults in the US, or 6.8% of the population, have had at least one major depressive episode in a given year. What does that tell us about what is going on with adults all around us?

What can we do to help our self be happier? Here are six ways.

Smile More

Smiling can make us feel better.  If you back it up with positive thoughts, it is more effective.

Sleep More

We know that sleep is essential for our health and for our body to recover from the day and have the time to repair itself.

Exercise 

Exercise is such a profound effect on our happiness and well-being that it is an effective strategy for overcoming depression.  Think of the times that you have exercised. How did you feel during it? After it?  Maybe during our exercise routine, we felt like we wanted to give up. We didn’t think we could keep going. Then, we finish and it’s like, oh my gosh, I DID IT! I can conquer this.  It gives us this boost that is hard to explain unless you did it.  You want to shout to the universe that you didn’t quit, you did it.  Maybe that is just me that does this??  Come on and help me out. You do it too right???

Spend Time With Friends and Family

Not staying in touch with friends and family is one of the top 5 regrets of dying. Social time is highly valuable when it comes to improving our happiness, even for introverts.  Several studies have found that time spent with friends and family makes a huge difference in how happy we feel.

Expert Daniel Gilbert, it explains it as: “We are happy when we have family, we are happy when we have a friend and almost all the other things, we think make us happy are actually just ways of getting more family and friends.”

Go Outside More Often

Going outside and feeling the sun hit our faces can do so much for our souls.  Going out in that perfect temperature and just enjoying the outdoors does more for us than we realize.  Feeling the ground and grounding ourselves is something else that can help us and our happiness.  Try it and just see how you feel

Helping Others 

You know the Golden rule is, “Do unto others as you would have others do unto you” is truer than some think. When you do for other people it just overall makes your heart feel good.  Taking someone’s dinner, writing a note, paying it forward, taking their garbage cans out, the list can go on and on. In today’s world, we are running 100 different directions and we don’t think we have time for service, but what if you didn’t watch TV just for a bit to go help someone, or while you are in the drive-thru of your favorite place that you are buying your food or drink, you pay for the car behind you. Have you ever done that before?  Try it, oh my gosh the feeling is amazing.  It makes you almost feel giddy because you can imagine the person behind you feeling so grateful and yet shocked.  Maybe they are having a hard day and you just brought a smile to them.

Oh, just thinking of these things brings a smile to my face, I would love to hear what you do to help with your happiness.

No matter what you have going on, it is my hope that you have a little more happiness today than yesterday.

 

XoXo Dee

 

 

Do you believe in magic?

Do you believe in magic?

Do you know that feeling of excitement when something is about to happen?

and you have this butterfly feeling in your stomach? The feeling in your heart, the feeling through every joint in your body. The feeling that you have this extra little hop in your step. The feeling of smiling and no matter how hard you try, you can’t wipe the smile off your face!

There is something about the feeling of magic.  Think back to Christmas time and the feeling you had as a child. It was magical, wasn’t it? The anticipation, the wonder, the excitement, the joy.  There are some feelings that we each may have experienced at different times in our lives that just felt magical. Now, do you believe in magic?

How do we get that feeling back now if we have lost it?

Do you practice gratitude? Do you have a magic wand that you wave around putting magic dust everywhere?

We can get that magical feeling back inside us if we believe in something. Believe in something so powerful that you can make a change for yourself. Here at Powerful Kind Women, we have been practicing gratitude on a daily basis. I am quickly reminded how much good is out there if I believe it.  When we look at things with different eyes, we open ourselves up to so much more. It’s a magical feeling.

“If you take any activity, any art, any discipline, any skill – take it and push it as far as it will go, push it beyond where it has ever been before, push it to the wildest edges of edges, then you force it into the realm of magic.”  Tom Robbins

When you wake up with gratitude, continue your day with gratitude, and then finish your day with gratitude, magic happens.  Try it.

Do you believe in magic? I encourage you to get the feeling of magic again. There is never too much of it. It is waiting for us to use it. We need to be grateful for all the amazing things that are right there in front of us.

 

XoXo  Dee

Life is Good

Do You Think Life Is Fair?

Do you ask yourself…….Why Me?

Why am I going through this situation? Why Why Why?

Chances are pretty high that you all have asked us do you think life is fair. Did you like the answer you received from it? Are you still waiting for the answer?

What if you turned that question around and asked, what am I supposed to learn from this?  There must be something that I need to learn.  You tell yourself Thank you for the opportunity to learn from this.  Look for the good in the situation. Give Thanks to the situation that you can do better, help someone else out that maybe has or is going through something similar.

I would have my little pity party of just being tired of feeling like I was the only one going through hard.  I would say, “Does anyone out there know this awful feeling”??? Is it just me??  I quickly learned it wasn’t just me. Everyone is going through something. Some display it for all to see, some hide it for no one to see, and some are still in denial they are dealing with it.

We each handle these situations differently 

Let’s talk for just a minute on some ways that might help us get through them a little better.

  • Give thanks for the current situation so you can learn from it
  • Write down 10 things that you can be grateful for with the current situation. I know this might be hard or seem silly, but if you change your mindset to a gratitude mindset. You will see things shift.  After you write these 10 things down, then read them out loud. Say Thank you after each one.  Feel gratitude for each of your 10 things. Feel that feeling of gratitude. You will feel a shift in your thoughts.
  • Wake up every morning and start your day with gratitude
  • End your day with gratitude and think of all the wonderful things that happened in your day. Focus on the one thing that made you feel the best feeling ever.  Think about that feeling, and say Thank you

After you do these things, reevaluate your situation and see how you feel while you are going through it. I hope your mind and thoughts shift to the positive things to help you get through it. We all have different things going on in our lives. We just need to learn the tools to help us get through them and help others find the positive things as well.

Changing our mindset as well to not saying, “Life isn’t fair” and saying, ” I am so grateful to be alive” ” I am grateful for what I am learning” ” I am grateful for a new day” ” I am grateful for all I have been given”.

Remember, Happiness begins with Gratitude. 

It is up to us and how we handle the “Life Isn’t Fair” statement.  Here, at Powerful Kind Women, is to our new way of thinking and changing how we view harder situations.

XoXo , Dee

Friendships

Friendships

How are your friendships?

Do you have friends that are really really your friends?  Friendships that you can go a long time without talking with and when you do talk it’s like you just pick up like you talk all the time.

As we get older our friends come and go.  Some relationships get stronger, some drift away, and some just are there, and everyone is content with that.  The older I get the more I realize what different kinds of friendships there are.

When we are kids, we just make friends

and everyone seems so nice because it’s all about playing and having fun.  Then someone is mean and won’t play with you and you think the world is coming to an end. Oh, it’s such a sad moment during that time. Like so so sad, cry on your pillow sad. Think the world is ending sad. You tell your parents you will never be able to find another friend because that was your best friend in the whole entire world. 

Then we hit teenager age and oh my gosh

Talk about a reality check that just hit you smack in the face!!!  Like hey, emotions, how are you today! 

You think you are just the best of the best and there is no one that is going to bring you down, and I mean no one!!!  You have girl talk, girl gossip, more girl talk, and even more girl gossip.  You are laughing and having a great time, then out of nowhere, BOOM you find out that your girlfriend is actually hanging out and talking to your BOY CRUSH and your world has just crumbled down all around you.

You have that pit in your stomach. Your throat feels like it is on fire. You are fighting back the tears that are now building in your eyes and you don’t want the first drop to roll down your cheek, because then your girlfriends will know that they hit a chord with you. You act like you have to go babysit your sibling (which you normally would not raise your hand to do) but the thought of sitting there any longer gives you such anxiety that making the story up of babysitting is well worth it.

Adult Friends and Relationships are a whole different vocabulary all in itself

Hey, neighbor how are you?  Oh, you don’t want to be friends. Ok, no worries carry on.  Ok, let’s go check out another neighbor.  Knock on the door……. Oh hey, I am your neighbor two doors down.  I would love to get to know you better.  Oh, I am happy to come in, thanks. Then all of a sudden out of nowhere you now have a friend two doors down that you could go to if needed, ask for a cup of flour if you are in a pinch. etc.  

Then you have adult friendships that are within your married friendship circle, your single friendship circle, your work friendship circle, your work friendship circle, and your religious friends. There definitely are other circles but these are a few.  So many friendship circles out there to keep up with.  This is why adult friendships get eliminated after a while.  It just becomes too much to keep up with.  You get busy with life, work, and everyday things that sometimes friends are the first things to go. 

You have that best friend that no matter what happens in life. No matter where you live in the world. No matter what you have going on.  You know without a doubt in your mind, you can call at any time. You might get an ear full because you woke them up, but you also might get an ear full because you didn’t call. You know there is zero judgment. You know that you can tell them anything. They will have your back. They will stand up for you, and they will defend you. They are your true best friend. 

Let’s talk about a work friendship circle

It can be amazing and then it can totally flip and be the biggest nightmare you can ever imagine. Let’s think about this for a minute and talk about it.  

When you spend more time at the office working with your co-workers you can either grow a strong relationship with your co-workers or have this love-hate relationship with them.  I tried to always have a great relationship with the people I worked with.  I knew I would be spending a lot of time with them, and I wanted to create a safe place that we all could hang out at the office, talk to each other, lean on each other, laugh together, cry together, and ask each other for help if needed.  

What I did not ever think would happen is that this safe place that was created and enjoyed, could turn so toxic and divide everyone up. I didn’t realize that it only takes one person that is the bad apple to drip off on others and add poison to the environment.  I couldn’t even wrap my mind around that, let alone ever think about being the one starting that.  I still can’t imagine your life being so miserable that you have to tear others down.  All of a sudden, the work friendship circle is so divided that you don’t even want to return. How does it get to that point?

Does life get busy that we do not cater to friendships and nurturing them that all of a sudden, we start to sabotage them? Do we get so envious of others that we tear them down instead of building each other up?  Take a minute and just think about some of your friendships. Think about a time that you thought things were going so well. Things were busy and happy, then you start to notice a change.  The person’s behavior changes. They start to stay away, not talk as much. When they do talk, they act sneaky. They act weird around you and others. They just seem off.  Can you think of a time this may have happened?

Why do you think female friends are the ones to attack others? Why is it that females feel so threatened by other females? Do they have the fear that they will not be recognized for their efforts? Maybe missing out on a promotion that someone else might get? Fear of not making it to the top? Fear of someone passing them up on the ladder? 

We need to change this in our female work friendship circle.  Imagine if we cheered each other on, encouraged each other more, helped when needed more, celebrated the victories.  Can you even imagine the difference females would make in this WORLD!!!

Female work friendship circle would have a whole new meaning

We would be unstoppable. We could change the way we are viewed in the workforce. It is going to take time to make the change, but if we start with us, that is one female closer to making the change. What can each of us do differently today to make a difference tomorrow?  

TO my friends out there reading this. I am here cheering you on. I am encouraging you to set your vision and dreams. You can do this. You have it in you to do this.  You are a Powerful Kind Woman. Let’s change how we treat each other. Let’s commit to not sabotaging each other, not tearing each other down.  

If I want to see a change, I know it has to start with me.  I am here cheering for you.

XoX0, Dee

It is a new day, we woke up!

It Is A New Day, We Woke Up

It is a new day, we woke up! If you are reading this, that means you woke up, told yourself you were going to do something today. 

Have you ever had a morning when you wish you didn’t wake up?  That the burdens, feelings, emotions, are just more than you think you can handle?

Oh my gosh, you are not alone. 

I remember one night in particular.  I had a lot thrown at me. I kept thinking, if one more freaking thing hits me, I AM DONE!!! I don’t want to get out of bed, I don’t even want to be me today.  Do you know how horrible that feels, let alone how horrible that sounds???

How did I even get to this point that I am thinking that?  I had kids that depended on me, that needed me.  If I left them all, could my husband handle it alone?  I thought he could, but then I realized that it’s not fair to my kids.  My self-pity party was just that. It was mine and only mine and I needed to snap out of it. The problem was that is easier said than done.  When you are at a place in your life that you do not even want to wake up, you are not thinking you can just snap your fingers, click your heels, and it’s all better.

 

My baby at the time would look at me with his big brown eyes and he didn’t know what I was thinking, or did he???? Could he sense something wasn’t right?  Who would he look at if I wasn’t here?  He wouldn’t know me if I was gone, so how could I do better for him and my other 7 kids at the time?

 

Kids need their parents.  I was a work acholic parent and suddenly lost it all and was home 24/7 with them and really had no clue how to do that. 

It was something I always wanted because I didn’t have it, but I wanted it to be my choice, not told I had to do it.  Goodness, I don’t like being told how to do things.  This is real talk here, right????

I like to do things for others, and now that I didn’t have that choice, what on earth was I going to do??  What I didn’t realize at the time is, I had everything at my fingertips to do, I just couldn’t see that right then.  Nothing seemed happy. I was spiraling fast and didn’t tell anyone.  Why do we suffer in silence? Why are we ashamed to tell others?  There is this stigma out there that if we do not look like we have it all together we get judged. Or do we tell ourselves we will get judged?

 

Let’s talk about that for just a minute.  There is talk out there, articles out there, new stories out there about us, and people read the stories or watch the stories and all of a sudden out of nowhere get an opinion.

That opinion might not have been there before, but it all of a sudden is based on what they just heard. Before these things came out, they had a different opinion of you. What changed and what changed so fast??

Did that person even think that what they just heard isn’t all true? Did they take the time to call you and ask questions?  Why do we think people are so fast to change their opinion off of hearing something, but never once called to ask you?

I hope through my journey of you reading this here or hearing me speak in person, that I can help you open your eyes, your mind and not be so fast to judge others. I hope to share things with you that you just take a minute to think and do your own research to get your opinion or thoughts before you jump so fast to believe everything you read or hear. It’s a new day…

XOXO, Dee

 

 

Denise Garza Powerful Kind Women

Hello There and Welcome

Oh my gosh!

It is so great to see you. How in the heck have you been???

I feel like it has been so long since we talked last. Why do we let the time go by in between seeing each other?  Gosh, we have to do better. Yes, yes, we really have to get together more often.

Do you agree? Perfect, well this is the day that we are going to get together more often. I am going to put it in writing today so I hold us to it. You laugh? Me too, but really, we are making it a priority to come here, hang out for a bit, get caught up on life, and get inspiration from each other. If we don’t do it, we are going to lose all that time cheering each other on.

We can never get back time, so let’s make the best of the time we have together.

Let me introduce myself to you. I am Denise or Dee…that is what my friends call me. I have nine adventurous, wild, beautiful, amazing, talented, real-life, teach me more about life than I taught them, determined kids, one sassy determined amazing granddaughter, and a husband that supports what I do, and lets me try anything…sometimes shakes his head and chuckles at me. I have a family that is my rock and support. And parents that let me try it all, taught me to work hard, don’t give up, and to be a good person.

I used to love Diet Coke more than I loved life. It got me through many things in my life. Goodness, there was nothing like taking that first drink of a freshly made ice (crushed ice) diet coke. Oh, I can still taste it. I decided in 2019 that the only thing I could really control, at least what I thought was the only thing I could control at the time, was my health. I lost over 50lbs and Diet Coke had to hit the road.

It is crazy to think how much that silly delicious drink controlled my life.

Now don’t laugh too hard at that, but it’s true. I would wake up and the first thing that would happen would be, my husband doing our morning routine of driving through the drive-thru gas station, ordering my two 44oz crushed ice diet cokes, a donut, and his drink. That sounds silly, right? It was real life for us. When they would close on Christmas, I would stress myself out wondering what I would do for this goofy addiction I had. I would order two right before they closed Christmas Eve and not put a lime in them so they would taste ok Christmas morning. They would go in our fridge…I would have my 12 pack in the fridge for the day. Can you even believe this? Some of you might be doing this same thing, I may not have been alone in this struggle. 

When I took control of my health, I also told myself that I would never let anyone else control who I am or what I do.  As you go along this journey with me and our promise to meet up more often, you will hear more about that.

I will share with you my highs and lows. I will share with you my greatest accomplishments and my failures. Real-life…the struggles, and joys that come with having a large family, losing a business, and gaining more knowledge than I ever thought was possible.  I am a real person that has taken a huge loss and found the good in it. I am a person that just tells you how it is.

It is my hope and prayer every day that I am a better person today than I was yesterday. That I am kinder today than yesterday. I want the same for you. Being kinder has changed my way of thinking more than ever. I thought I was already a kind person, but now I have an intention with it. 

My eyes have been opened to what Kindness really means.

I start my day with GRATITUDE. Without GRATITUDE, I would not be the person I am. The old me thought I knew what gratitude was. When you have hit rock bottom, had the rug pulled out from under you, been punched in the gut a few times along with a few stabs in the back, I had to be humbled real quick. I now have a bigger and more powerful meaning behind the word Gratitude!

I am standing with you today taking full ownership of everything that has happened to me and my past business. I no longer blame others. No matter what happened or what is still to come out of it, I am better today than I was then. 

That right there my friends is the biggest blessing I ever could have received.

So, with all of that, I am glad you are here. I hope to bring happiness to you. I hope to share information with you that will open your eyes, give you a different perspective of situations, cheer you on, and offer encouragement. The biggest thing I can give you is Kindness. That is key.

Now that I have done the talking, tell me a little about you. I can’t wait to connect!