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Stay True To Who You Are

I saw this today, and I have so many thoughts on this statement. 💜
 
Let me start off with, everything I have gone through, experienced, been a witness too, learned about people, I have learned one of the most important things!! STAY TRUE TO WHO YOU ARE!!!
 
People want power.
People want to be powerful; they want to get ahead, they want what you have at times, but also, people do not want to always put the work in to get it. Sometimes people do not want to talk to someone to actually find out what is going on in your life. They don’t want to see how your situations really are.
They instantly want to jump into action and think they are saving everyone by just taking over, getting an opinion of what they “think” is going on, and take you out because they only want what you have or had.
 
Now this isn’t for everyone, but it for sure is for the ones that read it and say, “oh shoot”, is she talking to me???
 
Maybe I am, maybe I am putting this out there to have you rethink things. Maybe this is out there to STOP trying to hurt people to get what YOU WANT!!
 
Why can’t you work hard for what you want?
 
Why can you not be your unique self to get what you want?
 
Why can’t you be happy for the person that has what you want, and think, goodness, if they can do it, so can I?
 
Why can’t you set yourself apart from others and offer something a little different that makes people want to come to you?
 
Why don’t you maybe count your blessings for what you have, be grateful for those that helped get you there, and not take down the ones you don’t think are doing things how YOU want them to be?
 
Why don’t you pick the phone up and have a conversation to understand things better?
 
Why don’t you get back to the old fashion way and talk to others, listen to others, and cheer others on, even when it’s not how you would do it?
 
These are just some things to think about!
 
What we need more of in this world is, unique hard working caring people.
There is enough hatred and shaming going on. You don’t need to add to it. Be your best self, and if you have to hurt others to be your best self, you need some hard soul searching to happen. You might need to look in the mirror and ask yourself, is this who I want to be?
 
Let’s build one another up. Let’s cheer each other on.
We all have our journey. We all have a purpose. That purpose should not be to DESTROY OTHERS to get what you want!!
 
If you need a cheerleader, reach out to me,
I am more than happy to cheer you on to achieve your dreams and goals.
 
I want you to be happy. I want you to reach your highest potential, but I don’t want you to hurt others to get there.
 
Let’s live our best life TODAY, because we are not promised tomorrow, and if tomorrow does not come, will you be proud of your journey and who you are?
XoXo Dee
Life is Good

Do You Think Life Is Fair?

Do you ask yourself…….Why Me?

Why am I going through this situation? Why Why Why?

Chances are pretty high that you all have asked us do you think life is fair. Did you like the answer you received from it? Are you still waiting for the answer?

What if you turned that question around and asked, what am I supposed to learn from this?  There must be something that I need to learn.  You tell yourself Thank you for the opportunity to learn from this.  Look for the good in the situation. Give Thanks to the situation that you can do better, help someone else out that maybe has or is going through something similar.

I would have my little pity party of just being tired of feeling like I was the only one going through hard.  I would say, “Does anyone out there know this awful feeling”??? Is it just me??  I quickly learned it wasn’t just me. Everyone is going through something. Some display it for all to see, some hide it for no one to see, and some are still in denial they are dealing with it.

We each handle these situations differently 

Let’s talk for just a minute on some ways that might help us get through them a little better.

  • Give thanks for the current situation so you can learn from it
  • Write down 10 things that you can be grateful for with the current situation. I know this might be hard or seem silly, but if you change your mindset to a gratitude mindset. You will see things shift.  After you write these 10 things down, then read them out loud. Say Thank you after each one.  Feel gratitude for each of your 10 things. Feel that feeling of gratitude. You will feel a shift in your thoughts.
  • Wake up every morning and start your day with gratitude
  • End your day with gratitude and think of all the wonderful things that happened in your day. Focus on the one thing that made you feel the best feeling ever.  Think about that feeling, and say Thank you

After you do these things, reevaluate your situation and see how you feel while you are going through it. I hope your mind and thoughts shift to the positive things to help you get through it. We all have different things going on in our lives. We just need to learn the tools to help us get through them and help others find the positive things as well.

Changing our mindset as well to not saying, “Life isn’t fair” and saying, ” I am so grateful to be alive” ” I am grateful for what I am learning” ” I am grateful for a new day” ” I am grateful for all I have been given”.

Remember, Happiness begins with Gratitude. 

It is up to us and how we handle the “Life Isn’t Fair” statement.  Here, at Powerful Kind Women, is to our new way of thinking and changing how we view harder situations.

XoXo , Dee

Friendships

Friendships

How are your friendships?

Do you have friends that are really really your friends?  Friendships that you can go a long time without talking with and when you do talk it’s like you just pick up like you talk all the time.

As we get older our friends come and go.  Some relationships get stronger, some drift away, and some just are there, and everyone is content with that.  The older I get the more I realize what different kinds of friendships there are.

When we are kids, we just make friends

and everyone seems so nice because it’s all about playing and having fun.  Then someone is mean and won’t play with you and you think the world is coming to an end. Oh, it’s such a sad moment during that time. Like so so sad, cry on your pillow sad. Think the world is ending sad. You tell your parents you will never be able to find another friend because that was your best friend in the whole entire world. 

Then we hit teenager age and oh my gosh

Talk about a reality check that just hit you smack in the face!!!  Like hey, emotions, how are you today! 

You think you are just the best of the best and there is no one that is going to bring you down, and I mean no one!!!  You have girl talk, girl gossip, more girl talk, and even more girl gossip.  You are laughing and having a great time, then out of nowhere, BOOM you find out that your girlfriend is actually hanging out and talking to your BOY CRUSH and your world has just crumbled down all around you.

You have that pit in your stomach. Your throat feels like it is on fire. You are fighting back the tears that are now building in your eyes and you don’t want the first drop to roll down your cheek, because then your girlfriends will know that they hit a chord with you. You act like you have to go babysit your sibling (which you normally would not raise your hand to do) but the thought of sitting there any longer gives you such anxiety that making the story up of babysitting is well worth it.

Adult Friends and Relationships are a whole different vocabulary all in itself

Hey, neighbor how are you?  Oh, you don’t want to be friends. Ok, no worries carry on.  Ok, let’s go check out another neighbor.  Knock on the door……. Oh hey, I am your neighbor two doors down.  I would love to get to know you better.  Oh, I am happy to come in, thanks. Then all of a sudden out of nowhere you now have a friend two doors down that you could go to if needed, ask for a cup of flour if you are in a pinch. etc.  

Then you have adult friendships that are within your married friendship circle, your single friendship circle, your work friendship circle, your work friendship circle, and your religious friends. There definitely are other circles but these are a few.  So many friendship circles out there to keep up with.  This is why adult friendships get eliminated after a while.  It just becomes too much to keep up with.  You get busy with life, work, and everyday things that sometimes friends are the first things to go. 

You have that best friend that no matter what happens in life. No matter where you live in the world. No matter what you have going on.  You know without a doubt in your mind, you can call at any time. You might get an ear full because you woke them up, but you also might get an ear full because you didn’t call. You know there is zero judgment. You know that you can tell them anything. They will have your back. They will stand up for you, and they will defend you. They are your true best friend. 

Let’s talk about a work friendship circle

It can be amazing and then it can totally flip and be the biggest nightmare you can ever imagine. Let’s think about this for a minute and talk about it.  

When you spend more time at the office working with your co-workers you can either grow a strong relationship with your co-workers or have this love-hate relationship with them.  I tried to always have a great relationship with the people I worked with.  I knew I would be spending a lot of time with them, and I wanted to create a safe place that we all could hang out at the office, talk to each other, lean on each other, laugh together, cry together, and ask each other for help if needed.  

What I did not ever think would happen is that this safe place that was created and enjoyed, could turn so toxic and divide everyone up. I didn’t realize that it only takes one person that is the bad apple to drip off on others and add poison to the environment.  I couldn’t even wrap my mind around that, let alone ever think about being the one starting that.  I still can’t imagine your life being so miserable that you have to tear others down.  All of a sudden, the work friendship circle is so divided that you don’t even want to return. How does it get to that point?

Does life get busy that we do not cater to friendships and nurturing them that all of a sudden, we start to sabotage them? Do we get so envious of others that we tear them down instead of building each other up?  Take a minute and just think about some of your friendships. Think about a time that you thought things were going so well. Things were busy and happy, then you start to notice a change.  The person’s behavior changes. They start to stay away, not talk as much. When they do talk, they act sneaky. They act weird around you and others. They just seem off.  Can you think of a time this may have happened?

Why do you think female friends are the ones to attack others? Why is it that females feel so threatened by other females? Do they have the fear that they will not be recognized for their efforts? Maybe missing out on a promotion that someone else might get? Fear of not making it to the top? Fear of someone passing them up on the ladder? 

We need to change this in our female work friendship circle.  Imagine if we cheered each other on, encouraged each other more, helped when needed more, celebrated the victories.  Can you even imagine the difference females would make in this WORLD!!!

Female work friendship circle would have a whole new meaning

We would be unstoppable. We could change the way we are viewed in the workforce. It is going to take time to make the change, but if we start with us, that is one female closer to making the change. What can each of us do differently today to make a difference tomorrow?  

TO my friends out there reading this. I am here cheering you on. I am encouraging you to set your vision and dreams. You can do this. You have it in you to do this.  You are a Powerful Kind Woman. Let’s change how we treat each other. Let’s commit to not sabotaging each other, not tearing each other down.  

If I want to see a change, I know it has to start with me.  I am here cheering for you.

XoX0, Dee